How can you have compassion for someone you don’t like?

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Weekly Question: How can you have compassion for someone you don’t like?

Weekly Intention: Compassion


Be compassionate…


Notes/Thoughts

“Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them humanity cannot survive.” – The Dalai Lama

Compassion can be difficult…so let’s examine it.

com·pas·sion
/kəm’paSHən/

noun

1. Concern for another person’s sufferings; concern for their well being.

I would add, irregardless of whatever’s happened.

Ex: He forgave him, and found a way to have compassion… even though he d was enrage, even though he continued to have his differences and opinions.


Ex: Horrible atrocities were perpetrated against her, but she still found a way to have compassion and forgive, even though the perpetrator didn’t care…


Ex: Sometimes nations need to have compassion, even when they don’t have a good reason.


Ex: She had compassion for herself and she forgave herself for her past mistakes.


Again, once a person forgives someone, they can have compassion for them: including but not exclusive to enemies, family members, friends, colleagues; even someone who cuts you off in traffic…even if they make the same mistakes over and over again! 

Forgiveness also connects to empathy, so let’s define empathy.


em·pa·thy
/’empTHē/
noun

1. The ability to understand and feel another person’s emotions.


Ask yourself…

Who is this person you despise…why are they this way?

  • What has there life been like?
  • What was their upbringing? 
  • Who are they, really, and why do they feel the way they do?

Then, actually ‘feel it’ as if he, or she were you…


How can you have compassion for someone you don’t like?

  • Define the issue; how have you been hurt? [And you have been hurt!]
  • Determine a satisfactory reason for why you’ve been hurt; i.e. “this person’s upbringing has caused them to be this way.”
  • Give up judgement; try to understand, even if you do not agree; even if you don’t like them and they don’t like you.
  • Experience empathy for the person; try to imagine ~ who they are
    and ‘feel’ it.
  • Communicate whatever there is to communicate…
  • Forgive the person.
  • Be concerned for their well-being in whatever way that works for you.

Please make sure that you protect and honor yourself in the process.


Sometimes a person needs to be forgiven, ongoingly, throughout the day. He or she may be brusk, seemingly judgmental, angry, bitter, rude, condescending, insolent, inconsiderate, ignorant, insulting….


It is important, however, in certain situations, that you do not put yourself in harm’s way; i.e. some kind of battering or verbally abusive situation, for example; it’s important that you get out of certain situations.


Ask yourself, how can I have compassion today?
Then live from the question and see what unfolds…


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Remember, everyone is on their own path at their own pace, and we all have the same value. Also, while examining the intention and answering the question, make sure you’re not hurting yourself or anyone else.


Please practice yoga safely, and pause or stop when you need to pause or stop.  Listen to your body! Also, please consult a doctor before engaging in the practice of yoga. The Yoga Book blog, it’s affiliates, etc. do not take any responsibility for injuries, actions etc. which may occur as a result of doing yoga, focusing on the question/intention, or doing “Today’s Class.” Also, The Yoga Book blog is not intended to be a substitute for professional help. It is simply information based on experience and some research. Remember, you are making your own choices ~ following your own path, your own heart. ‘Tis up to you, what you do, and your sole responsibility. It is also your responsibility please, to seek the professional help you may need in dealing with the issues that may arise in your life.

…And we all need a little help, sometimes 🙂


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